Confessions of a new mum, new 'Swede', former Bachelor Girl-(now-married)-artist/songwriter.. and all things in between.. BLOG WEEK 1, April 2015

A fellow Stockholmer and powerhouse friend of mine, Sissi Hagald, recently suggested I start blogging. I guess she finds my stories somewhat entertaining(she is an entertanment lawyer, after all)…and that even my verbal diahorrea and inner most thoughts regarding living thousands of miles from my home town Melbourne, Australia, as a singer/songwriter with my Swedish husband(Daniel) and little 7 month old viking(Leo) could actually make a difference out there, and quite possibly add value to any fellow mother, wife, creative, or person/mum living abroad who's remotely interested. To document these extraordinary experiences and challenges of all four ‘roles' I essentially play right now - and how they work together, and sometimes against each other. Balancing them, embracing them, accepting them, surrendering to them, laughing(at them), crying about them ;-)
 
I’d be lying if I didn’t admit that this little project is foremost for my own sanity.. Like any decent song I’ve ever written that happened to move people, I just had to get the pus out. No difference here. As Jerry Mcguire resigns himself to this fact, as do I(ok, I admit I do use a few too many quotes from that flick), "I have lost the ability to bullshit."

So here we go.. where to start? Perhaps just a quickie, just to dip the toe in. 
No time like the present to springboard from. Everything makes more sense from the ’now’.  It’s no accident I should choose now, to dive into this new little venture of blogging. After a 4 year process, today I finally received my Swedish permanent residency. Thank you Sweden! Tack Sverige! Most would argue bearing a Swedish child and marrying a Svensson(I mean a Thorgren, sorry hun) were the two likely factors in securing the deal.. nevertheless, one must never take being the recipient of a foreign visa for granted. It makes me somewhat reflective, grateful and peaceful that indeed my greatest 'hits' (to even my own surprise), created in Sweden, are my hubby and son. It also affirms that powerful gut feeling way back in 1999 when James Roche and I(as Bachelor Girl), on a US and European promotional trip, including a day in Stockholm, when I walked outside of the Sheraton(yeah, thanks BMG) overlooking stunning Gamla Stan(‘Old Town’) and pontificated, “I could actually live here one day". I knew, on some level, that I could call Stockholm, literally on the other side of the planet, my Stock-home. Or at least my Northern Hemispherean home. Mind blowing, since I could never fathom being that far away from my posse of dear family and friends(of course this is my ongoing dilemma.. but more on that later), but the pull was so strong, I obviously could not, and did not ignore it.  It was the Swedish infectious songwriting community that initially drew me here, and it was against this backdrop that creating a whole new world, beA it as a renewed artist/songwriter and then as a mum, gave me a kick-up-the-butt I needed, and invited. 
 
As if to commemorate my recently granted ‘Svensson-ness’, today on our walk(yes, going out on a sometimes seemingly aimless mid-afternoon pram walk, just before the witching hours, is a must, and I acknowledge all mums who advised me.. right again! It’s crucial in order to prevent cycling down into permanent insanity), Leo and I saw a deer prancing around in the woods(still a novelty for this wombat), and tomorrow, I finally, FINALLY start Swedish lessons with my own Swedish tutor, Caroline. I find my worlds accidentally-on-purpose colliding again, as Caroline’s favourite city on the planet, just happens to be Melbourne, when she commuted with her now ex Aussie boyfriend - 6 months Melbourne, 6 months Stockholm. Sounds familiar, and I think we might get along just fine ;-) 

So as I embrace my (new) inner Swede, whilst holding true to my Aussie/Italian/Albanian roots, reminding myself that I’m still an artist that needs to express herself, and try not to f*** up my most significant gig ever, being a mum, I’m prepared to write and expose all the silly, and even more serious adventures that comes with all of it, weekly. I hope you’ll come along for the ride, share your experiences, insights, and just basically get around some of these honest offerings I'll put out into cyber world.

We haven't even scratched the surface yet... 'Til next week!
 
T x
 

11 comments

  • Luana

    Luana Melbourne

    Lovin this so far... Big tick from the teacher Thank yoooooou dear sister. Now get here, already! Come on July!!!

    Lovin this so far...
    Big tick from the teacher

    Thank yoooooou dear sister. Now get here, already! Come on July!!!

  • Tina

    Tina Guelph, Canada

    Looking forward to reading more blogs, I'm from Melbourne, Australia as well. I once served you at Starbucks, Port Melbourne. I married a canadian and had a baby here in Canada. I'm finding myslef torn between life in Canada and life in Melbourne. I play buses and trains to my daughter at night when she struggles to fall asleep. My almost 6 month daughter loves your voice.

    Looking forward to reading more blogs,
    I'm from Melbourne, Australia as well.
    I once served you at Starbucks, Port Melbourne.

    I married a canadian and had a baby here in Canada.
    I'm finding myslef torn between life in Canada and life in Melbourne.

    I play buses and trains to my daughter at night when she struggles to fall asleep. My almost 6 month daughter loves your voice.

  • Tania Doko

    Tania Doko

    OMG Tina!!! Thank you. 'Misery loves company', right?! Well, it's not that bad. But the feeling of being torn, I soooo get it. It means my little blog has already served a tangible purpose. Please stay in touch. T x

    OMG Tina!!! Thank you. 'Misery loves company', right?! Well, it's not that bad. But the feeling of being torn, I soooo get it. It means my little blog has already served a tangible purpose. Please stay in touch. T x

  • Sven

    Sven Los Angeles, CA / Leipzig, Germany

    Tan…nice blog!!! I'm sure most of my fellow LA Euros can relate big time ;)))) Thanks buddy! Yay to the x-pat club out there! T x

    Tan…nice blog!!!

    I'm sure most of my fellow LA Euros can relate big time wink)))

    Thanks buddy! Yay to the x-pat club out there! T x

  • Phil Markham

    Phil Markham Sydney

    Great blog .. Loved your music back In the late 90s Cheers Phil! T x

    Great blog .. Loved your music back
    In the late 90s

    Cheers Phil! T x

  • Brettstar

    Brettstar Melbourne

    Hey bud, great start. Looking forward to reading about your life in the land of Sven. you songs often come on when the iPad is on shuffle listening to it with my kids. It brings back some grest memories that i share with my son Lincoln. i for one am happy that u ou have started a blog 'cause i miss you xx Brett xx Bretttyyyyy You'll forever my kick boxing patner-in-crime(sob!) You the bestest! Love to Nic and the kiddies... T x

    Hey bud, great start. Looking forward to reading about your life in the land of Sven. you songs often come on when the iPad is on shuffle listening to it with my kids. It brings back some grest memories that i share with my son Lincoln. i for one am happy that u ou have started a blog 'cause i miss you xx
    Brett xx

    Bretttyyyyy You'll forever my kick boxing patner-in-crime(sob!) You the bestest! Love to Nic and the kiddies... T x

  • Elina

    Elina

    So lovley you started the blogg. Also super nice to read about you and listen to your music! Awesome!! You look great as usual!!hugs to your falmily, you, Leo and Daniel!!!

    So lovley you started the blogg. Also super nice to read about you and listen to your music! Awesome!! You look great as usual!!hugs to your falmily, you, Leo and Daniel!!!

  • Tim Dixon

    Tim Dixon sydney

    OMG - I love 'You and I' how do I buy a copy and how can I share this track ! X Tim! I can get it to you buddy.. T x

    OMG - I love 'You and I' how do I buy a copy and how can I share this track ! X

    Tim! I can get it to you buddy.. T x

  • Phyllis kozman

    Phyllis kozman New south wales

    Hi Tania it was so great to read your blog , thanks to Gloria i get to hear whats happening .Leo is so gorgious looking just like u .Love from all our family And a big hi to your hubby .Lol phyllis .xxxx😍😍😍😍 Phyllis! SO good to hear from you, thanks for your beautiful words. Big hugs back. T x

    Hi Tania it was so great to read your blog , thanks to Gloria i get to hear whats happening .Leo is so gorgious looking just like u .Love from all our family And a big hi to your hubby .Lol phyllis .xxxx😍😍😍😍

    Phyllis! SO good to hear from you, thanks for your beautiful words. Big hugs back. T x

  • Antonietta Carratello

    Antonietta Carratello Perth wa

    Love it! Understand all the above having moved from my family friends etc in Melbourne. Although only to Perth.... Raising a family and meeting wonderful people who have become family.......caught up in 2 world each of which have played an important role in my life...wish I had a Blog to read while I was doing it ... Your an inspiration Tania, look forwar to the read each week. Xx Awww Antons! Amazing feedback! So great to hear from you here! Exactly why I'm doing this.. you know the deal. Huge hugs to you, Rob & those awesome kiddies! T x

    Love it! Understand all the above having moved from my family friends etc in Melbourne. Although only to Perth.... Raising a family and meeting wonderful people who have become family.......caught up in 2 world each of which have played an important role in my life...wish I had a Blog to read while I was doing it ... Your an inspiration Tania, look forwar to the read each week. Xx

    Awww Antons! Amazing feedback! So great to hear from you here! Exactly why I'm doing this.. you know the deal. Huge hugs to you, Rob & those awesome kiddies! T x

  • Vilma

    Vilma Melbourne

    Dearest Tanya congratulations on all you have achieved and most of all in becoming a mother what a gorgeous little boy you have. Its been time since " Cansonissima - Solo Lui". All the very best fir the future. Love and i have never forgotten you. Vilma!!! SO brilliant to hear from you. Canzonissima & performing Solo Lui - kick started my whole career. The only live performance my wonderful Nonno got to see, so special. Big hugs V. T x

    Dearest Tanya congratulations on all you have achieved and most of all in becoming a mother what a gorgeous little boy you have. Its been time since " Cansonissima - Solo Lui". All the very best fir the future. Love and i have never forgotten you.

    Vilma!!! SO brilliant to hear from you. Canzonissima & performing Solo Lui - kick started my whole career. The only live performance my wonderful Nonno got to see, so special. Big hugs V. T x

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